Dating a cancer guy

14 May

First, you might like this article: The issues here are space and validation.I’ve had relationships that I have tried hard to keep in “stasis”.

It seems to me that men, and young men in particular, all too often avoid making appointments to be poked and prodded.

A 20 percent chance that his surgery wasn't enough and that he'll need additional treatment.

And in the meantime, MRIs and CT scans four times a year for the next five years, each appointment a little bubble of worry ready to burst.

We tried the long distance thing, which I'm sure even you would say was a bad idea. We tried keeping in touch while we dated other people without much luck, and we eventually drifted into what we now fondly refer to as "radio silence" before reconnecting at a mutual friend's wedding (cliché, I know) in 2011.

We'll never really know when during 2012 you snuck in, but you made yourself known just as I was starting to really get comfortable in our rekindled us-ness (which, I should mention, continues to be long-distance).